Self Acceptance..Through Nudity??????

May 10, 2008

A client came to me recently perplexed over her inability to accept her body the way it is today. She has been working out regularly, releasing emotional pain from the past, eating healthy, receiving an array of compliments from both men and women…..yet she still only sees a body that is not “worthy ”  of acceptance. At least in her mind.

“The compliments are nice , don’t get me wrong I am grateful for them, but I just cannot say I’m pleased at all with what I see. ” Some may say, since her body looks amazing , that she’s suffering from a perceptual disease, an emotional inability to see the reality of what her body really looks like. Since 60% of our population is overweight, she easily falls into the top 40% of Americans in regard to body size.

So I asked her to do 2 tasks for the next 30 days that I knew could have a powerful impact on her self image: 

1. To have her boyfriend take photo’s of her body, as it is true that looking in the mirror may not give some people the unbiased reality of what they do look like.

2. To walk around as much as possible in the privacy of her home without any clothes on..yes, in the nude. And, to make sure when she did walk by a mirror, to stop and look for the parts of her body that she DOES like.

The results were amazing. First, as her and her boyfriend sat in front of me with the photo’s, she was amazed at how comfortable she was looking at her body in this detached way…..and how she did appreciate herself from this perspective.

Next, she admitted that while at first walking around her home nude was uncomfortable, and especially stopping and looking at herself in a mirror , after 2 weeks it became a real joy. She danced in the nude, felt free, and actually began appreciating the way she looked. The more she became comfortable seeing herself in the nude, the more she began to love who she was. Now. Not in the future.

Slow Down. Practice self acceptance daily.

Love, Peace, David www.talkdavid.com


Enhancing Daily Productivity……..

May 3, 2008

If we want to be more successful, happier and more fulfilled in life, we really do need to look at the effectiveness, or ineffectiveness, of thedaily system that we use at work.

Productivity, whether we work out of our house, car or a 100 story office building, is directly tied into the ability to focus. The more we can focus on any given task, the easier it is to move through that task and do it at a very proficient level.

One technique that I have been sharing with all of my business clients, the ability to actually schedule limited times each day to read and respond to email, was highlighted extremely well in the book “4 Hour Work Week ” by Timothy Ferris.

Most of us spend way too much time reading, responding to  and filing email every day. Each time we look away from the work at hand to check email, we dilute our effectiveness and our productivity.

So here’s a productivity booster: only read and respond to email 2 times every day, let’s say 9am and 4pm.

For many of us, as we read this, we went automatically into “email withdrawal”.

“Oh no”, screams the American worker, “anything but THAT!!!”

I’m laughing as I write this…TRY it for 30 days and I guarantee an increase in your daily productivity and success. It’s that simple.

Slow Down. Love, David www.talkdavid.com

 


The Exodus in Our Own Lives…

April 25, 2008

Last week my sermon centered around the celebration of Passover, as we examine the power of all faiths in our Sunday services.

If you recall, it’s the story of how Moses, through his great faith, led the Hebrews out of bondage in Egypt to total freedom. But this did not occur  without great trials and tribulations.

The most interesting part of the story to me was when after finally being free, they spent 40 days and 40 nites wandering …not sure where they were going..and came upon the Red Sea. Just at that moment, they look behind them to see the Egyptian army coming to kill them. Moses was instructed to tap his staff on the water..and the sea parts. After safely getting to the other side, and the army in hot pursuit, he taps his staff again and the sea rushes in, consuming the army and saving his people.

Now, why do I find that the most interesting part of the story? If we look at our own lives, we might just see that we’ve been in bondage as well, and sometimes for many many years. Bondage that occurs from staying in an unhealthy relationship…or struggling with an addiction to food, spending, alcohol, sex, nicotine, prescription or street drugs……..or even bondage created by our own thoughts that tell us we are not enough today…nor will we ever be!!

We need our own personal exodus…and it needs to begin today.

Think about this..after years of slavery, the Jewish people were finally freed, or so they thought, and after JUST 40 DAYS, they truly were free at last.

If you and I put our attention on freeing ourselves from that which holds us back, in 40 days or less we could be free too!

But we have to want to be free, and then we need to look outside ourselves, to our faith, our friends, and more ..and ask for help.

Your own personal exodus from the pain of the past…or present..could be history if you choose to make it so.

Love, Peace, …Slow Down…David www.talkdavid.com


Emotion and weight loss………..

April 12, 2008

When we think of losing weight, or decreasing body fat, many  people are under the assumption that if they just eat less and exercise more the weight should  fly off.

It’s not that simple.

A part of the equation that I”ve seen as critical in the hundreds of people I’ve coached to a healthier, slimmer, stronger body is the release of emotions tied to an event in their past.

It could be a past partner they have not forgiven, how they were treated as a child, or not treated…. or the loss of a love realtionship that they thought would last forever……it could even be the simple, yet challenging fact of letting go and forgiving themselves for something they did in the past.

It all comes down to a simple phrase: when we release the past pain, when we begin to heal our emotional hurts, the weight begins to come off…… If, it’s combined with a great diet and regular and effective exercise program.

The excess weight in many cases is protection we hold onto so as not to be hurt again.

Many women I’ve worked with finally came to the realization that their fear of being hurt in love again was a reason they subconsciously held on to extra body weight. If they were less desirable they surmised , they would decrease the amount of men who might be interested in them, and hence not have to get hurt again.

One client found the power in this step in an unexpected way. As she released her past judgements against men, and herself, and began a great eating and exercise program, men started making wonderful advances towards her way before she had reached her ideal weight!…Amazing!

Slow down. Achieve your desires by releasing the past.

Love, Peace, David www.talkdavid.com


Your Sacredness……….Yes, Within You….

April 6, 2008

Hi..This is a very personal blog, written just for you. Yes, the you who is reading this, who is open to these words. The you who knows what you are reading is the ablsolute truth.

You are sacred.

Let’s read that again together, even out loud.

“I AM SACRED.”

When was the last time your conscious mind acknowledged this?…Hmmmmm…I have to wonder.
For many of us it has been a very , very long time. But that all ends today.

You are sacred, more sacred than you know.

Let’s repeat……

“I Am Sacred.”

Don’t try to read into this, simply accept it…for it is the truth.

Try, if you will, to repeat this one line every morning…….

“I Am Sacred. ”

And, watch your world change.

Slow Down.

Wishing you Love, Peace, David www.talkdavid.com


The Loss of Service in Business..Starbucks

March 30, 2008

I was so disappointed recently after reading an article in USA Today about the rebuilding of the  “Starbucks Empire”. Like many business tragedies, the whole interview was based around the physical changes that were going to be made at these coffee shops, and not one word, not one word was mentioned about an increase in training for a higher level of customer service.

What a shame. 

 What a complete and utter shame.

I love Starbucks coffee, but I am dismayed with how many stores I go to where I experience lame, inattentive and actually lazy employees. Which means, that there truly is no emphasis on this from the very top on down. And, this was proven by this recent article.

They were quite happy to say that the smell of roasted beans would once again be wafting through every store…and how they would unveil a new $2.50 extra special cup of coffee……….but not one word was mentioned about customer service……..

Could this have anything to do with the closing of 100 stores recently?????

I wonder………………………………………………………………….

Slow Down.

Peace,Love, David www.talkdavid.com


Stepping into Our Power….

March 30, 2008

I recently attended an intuitive workshop and walked away with a message I have heard 1,000 times before…and have had the opportunity to practice it daily, although I must admit that it sometimes slips my mind to do so. ” To be truly free we must be willing to step into our own personal power.”

So what does this catchy little phrase mean? It means we must be willing to be rejected by others if we want to be the powerful person that we are. We must be willing to go against the flow if the flow of life does not serve our hearts call. It means we must be willing to face rejection daily, and even reject our own long held beliefs about ourselves and life if those beliefs do not create joy and happiness anymore.

It means we may have to rock the boat more, not for the sake of rocking it, but because we have not been living honestly with ourselves.

Let go of the need for approval from others. Risk more often. Face the possibility of losing in love…for the chance to love. Of losing in our careers, for the chance of finding the passion in our work.

Slow down. Step into your own power today.

For if not now………..when?

Love, Peace, David www.talkdavid.com


Forgiveness through Compassion…

March 16, 2008

If we all want to be honest with ourselves, I think most of us can admit to having a hard time forgiving certain people in our lives for what they have done or said to us or about us. We all intuitively know that holding on to resentments is like carrying an extra anchor on our back, yet the ego is always right around the corner, encouraging us to hold onto our anger because “look at what they did TO you!!!! “.

It could be a parent, sibling,, former lover, former friend, past teacher….the list is endless. However, if we want to be free, truly be happy in every bone in our body, we have to learn how to forgive.

One of the most powerful tools to use, after we have deeply felt and written about our anger, sadness or frustration over this past event, is to bring compassion into our mind every time we think about this person. Compassion heals. Try to imagine that they truly deserve compassion, as they are 100% human, just like you. Prone to errors, just like you. And like you, they deserve compassion, and maybe even a prayer that at some point in this lifetime , may they find peace. You see, when you think of this situation in this way, you are sharing compassion with yourself as well.

Have compassion next for your struggle to let them go. Have compassion for the part of you that wants them to “pay” for the pain they have caused you.  Have compassion for the part of you that may have hurt others in the past as well.

Compassion, for you….for them…heals.

Slow down. Wishing you love and peace, David www.talkdavid.com


Trying to Forget…..

March 14, 2008

“All I want to do is forget that this thing ever happened. I just want to move on. I’ve tried to let it go, forgive, be at peace with the fact that everything happens for a reason….I’ve even handed it over to God now every day for 6 months and I cannot get it out of my mind. You’ve got to help me. ”

My client was so frustrated that you could see her on the brink of tears, just like so many past men and women I have worked with. “Just make “it” go away” is the refrain I hear daily.

The good news is that  “it” will change form…….”it” will dissipate, become less of a thought in our mind, but only if we do the work. Handing “it” over to God, or saying I forgive you is only a portion of the work. While this might sound strange, the real work may be in the act of sitting with your anger, frustration, sadness  or insecurity over whatever “it” is on a daily basis until you have truly felt the pain.

“It” can be the loss of a love, a job, a family member, a pet, a dream, a house, ….just about anything. If you find yourself unable to move on from a past experience, it probably is because we haven’t felt the deep feelings associated with this event. Because at first this can be uncomfortable, we run, hide from feeling this deeply.

The amazing thing is, that if we choose to go deeper within ourselves and create the space in our lives to sit and feel, the past experience will melt away….leaving us with a self resolution…and maybe even a lesson learned.

Slow Down. Feel.

Wishing you love and peace, David www.talkdavid.com


Creating more time for you,The Illusion of lack

March 3, 2008

The number one complaint amongst my clients is that “I don’t have enough time to do all that I want in a day!!”…To meditate…workout…time for my lover..time, quality time for kids…to just sit and enjoy a sunset/sunrise…the list does go on and on..

But if I told you that this excuse about time, that there is not/never enough was an illusion….. not only one that you bought into…but one you strengthen every day that you mention it…could you wrap your head around the fact that you are creating this illusion about time every day you are alive???…

It is absolutely a fact…the lack of time in your life to do what you desire is an illusion. How do I know??…Because I lived the same illusion,. and at times still fall back into the trap…=)…until I catch myself and snap out of the “limiting mindset” that I just created!!!

Proof: If you checked your email just 2 times per day, 8am and 4 pm…you would save about 2 hours or more each day in wasted time..Can you imagine how much fun , how much you could get done with 2 extra hours per day , every day per week!!!..

Proof: If you stopped watching the news on tv every day…am…noon…pm…most people would have another hour per day…just for them!!!

Proof: If you only returned phone calls at 11am and 4pm each day…you’d save on average 1 hour /day of wasted time…

Proof..So far , if you follow my proven plan…you now have an extra “4HOURS PER DAY” to do all that you want to…that you think you don;t have time to….due to the illusion you bought into.

Slow Down. Create the life you want right now…Shatter your limiting illusions..and just have fun!!…=)…Love,Peace,David www.talkdavid.com